You don’t have to be haunted by anxiety.

But many people are — in fact 40 million adults (18%) in the United States struggled with significant anxiety last year.

Although everyone has anxiety from time to time, it is usually short lived and does not keep you from living a full life. Common everyday anxiety doesn’t prevent you from doing the things you would like to do.

Run of the mill anxiety doesn’t make a big impression on your life.

But serious forms of anxiety are a different story. They become a constant shadow that dogs your day and create…


Relationship Fears: Grow Confident By Knowing What To Look For

Most men and women want to find a ‘soul mate.’ Someone with whom they feel a deep connection. A person they can fully trust, love, admire, and create a rewarding life.

The desire for this type of deep connection is deeply rooted. But for many it is also insanely difficult to build. Their desire for intimacy is blocked by an even stronger desire to ‘play it safe.’

Fears of being disappointed, rejected, taken advantage of loom large. As a result, many of these men and women give up on dating…


Best Break Up Ever — Sort Of

Here is the answer. You can’t. You can have two out of three, but not the whole enchilada. Respect and good will? OK, sure, those can (and normally should) be expressed when ending a relationship.

Lack of pain? Not going to happen.

Break ups hurt. There is loss, grief, and at times self-doubt. You cannot avoid these feelings, but you can minimize them.

What’s more, you can break up in a way that is likely to cause both you and your partner to eventually look back on the relationship with fondness rather than…


As a clinical psychologist I have worked with a number of women who have been intimately involved with so-called ‘Bad Boys.’ Most of these clients have described these romantic encounters as being exciting, tumultuous, confusing, and ultimately exhausting. Feelings of having been devalued and diminished are common.

If this sort of fellow was a product on Amazon he would get one star ratings across the board. So it is not surprising that when a journalist brought this subject up to me she was puzzled by what drives women (at least some women) to become involved with bad boys? …


Recently I was asked why it is that some people never enter into a mature, thoroughly committed relationship? Although there are many possible reasons for this fear, most of the time it boils down to one of the following.

ONE: Peter Pan Is Alive and Well

This is more common in men than in women. The person simply does not wish to grow up. Being an adult requires that you place your needs (at least much of the time) second to those of others. Particularly those with whom you have a commitment. …


“Parenting teenagers” my brother once said “Is God’s way of helping parents prepare for the empty nest…. because you start to long for the nest to be empty!” I’m not sure this is entirely true, but I do know that parenting teenagers requires patience, firmness and grace all mixed together. Although adolescence is a relatively brief period of time, it often gives rise to emotional extremes that include excitement, anxiety, hope, elation, frustration and despair (and that’s just for the parent!).

Every teen, in the span of a few short years, is required to make the leap from childhood to…


Very often the only way to get a quality in reality is to start behaving as if you had it already. That is why children’s games are so important. They are always pretending to be grown-ups — playing soldiers, playing shop. But all the time, they are hardening their muscles and sharpening their wits so that the pretence of being grown-up helps them to grow up in earnest.

Now, the moment you realise ‘Here I am, dressing up as Christ,’ it is extremely likely that you will see at once some way in which at that very moment the pretence…


Goals For A Brighter Tomorrow

It’s difficult to believe that 2018 is coming to a close. I’ll bet you remember when the year was still fresh. A clean slate to write upon. Yet now the year is quickly running to the finish line. Another chapter of life written.

Many of us use this time to reflect on memories of what went well, the successes we’ve had, times with family and friends, and the goals we’ve achieved.


Depression and anxiety are two of the most common psychiatric concerns among adults, adolescents and children in the USA. The impact of depression and anxiety can be devastating.

Just looking at depression, research from the World Health Organization shows that it is the fourth leading cause of disability. In younger individuals the impact of depression has far reaching consequences. For example, depressed teens are much more likely to become pregnant than their non-depressed peers. Their peer relations are also negatively impacted, as is their ability to prepare for adulthood.

Depressed college students are 60% more likely to drop out of…


Recently I was asked why it is that some people never enter into a mature, thoroughly committed relationship? Although there are many possible reasons for this fear, most of the time it boils down to one of the following.

ONE: Peter Pan Is Alive and Well

This is more common in men than women. The person simply does not wish to grow up. Being an adult requires that you place your needs (at least much of the time) second to those of others. Particularly those with whom you have a commitment. …

Forrest Talley, Ph.D.

I am a clinical psychologist who works with adults, teens and children. But my dream job is being paid to ride motorcycles, sail and build cabins in the woods.

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